Monday, July 6, 2009

You Are What You Eat

Had a busy morning: first off to the farmer's market, then a stop at Sephora for Lancome's new mascara, then Trader Joe's to finish off our grocery shopping. I love-love-love buying fresh local produce, especially from those who practice organic, sustainable farming. I really need to get with a CSA program. I say that every year, and still haven't. Bad girl!

Frankly, the grocery stores are getting entirely out of control. Last week at Giant, there was a display of insanely, unnaturally large cantaloupes. I just stood in front of them, openmouthed. And no one else seemed to notice that they were 50% larger than last year's cantaloupes, or why they should mind. No one seems to notice the food is so much BIGGER than it's meant to be. It's all genetically engineered to be uniform-looking, survive long shipments, and grow to unusual proportions. As a result, it's less tasteful and less nutritious.

Right then, something hit me: produce is often sold by the pound, the size of the produce we are eating has gotten out of control... that has to be one of the reasons produce has gotten so expensive. By comparison, the stuff you get at the farmer's market is smaller, and occasionally dares to be misshapen, but has such a better concentration of flavor. So that's where I choose to put my money.

And just when you think it's safe to buy organic, The Washington Post published a disturbing article a few days ago, called Purity of Federal 'Organic' Label Is Questioned. It's about how higher consumer demand and lower federal standards turned the organics market into a $23 billion-a-year business.

There were a lot of disturbing facts, but here's one that hit this mother-to-be: synthetic additives in organic baby formula banned just three years ago can now be found in 90% of organic baby formula. 90%!! Why? Because a USDA program manager was lobbied by the formula makers and overruled her staff. I hope this breastfeeding thing works out!

Small, independent organic companies are being bought up by companies like Kraft (Boca) and Kellogg (Morningstar Farms). And they have the money to press the government to expand its definition of "organic," especially through their Organic Trade Association (which wants you to buy THEIR kind of organic products, those prepared, processed and packaged with synthetic food substances). Don't think things like the OTA have power? Check this quote:

Under the original organics law, 5%of a USDA-certified organic product can consist of non-organic substances, provided they are approved by the National Organic Standards Board. That list has grown from 77 to 245 substances since it was created in 2002. Companies must appeal to the board every five years to keep a substance on the list, explaining why an organic alternative has not been found. The goal was to shrink the list over time, but only one item has been removed so far.

And here's another gem from a man making decisions about whether the food you eat is truly organic:


"I say, 'Let's find a way to bend that one, because it's not important.' . . . What are we selling? Are we selling health food? No. Consumers, they expect organic food to be growing in a greenhouse on Pluto. Hello? We live in a polluted world. It isn't pure. We are doing the best we can."

I don't think he is. Do you?


I choose to pay more for certain organic products, and I expect them to be free of synthetics, pesticides and other chemicals; not to be genetically engineered; and to be grown in a way that is gentle to the environment. Farmers and food producers shouldn't be able to shop around and hire private certifiers to inspect products. There should be clear guidelines on what can be used in organic products, and that list shouldn't grow! Terms like "access to pasture" should have specific definitions; don't put true organic dairy farmers at unfair competition with those who run more or less confinement dairies. There has to be a strict interpretations of "organic." The organics industry shouldn't focus on growth at any cost; it should focus on preserving the integrity of the organic label.


Remember that old saying: you are what you eat? If you want to learn a little more, I recommend In Defense of Food; Animal, Vegetable, Miracle; and will be sure to eventually blog about Food, Inc.

Sunday, July 5, 2009

The Modern Girl's Guide to Motherhood

With Matt laid up for the next few weeks, I HAD to get out of the house a few times. Friday, it was the library. After checking out the new releases section, I wandered over to the parenting/childcare section and got the Complete Baby Care video I wrote about earlier, Heading Home with Your Newborn, an updated Consumer Reports Best Baby Products, Cozy Knits for Cuddly Babies, and The Modern Girl's Guide to Motherhood.

TMGGM really could've been broken into two sections: one on prenatal/postnatal/newborn care, and the other on caring for toddlers. If you are having your first baby, you can get away with skipping around rather than reading the whole thing like I did. Most of the content is very worth the read.

It goes over:
  • What you need to prepare for a new baby (I've come across about a half-dozen of these lists, and they all have slightly different things. My only recommendation on that is NOT to get one from a place like Babies R Us...they are pretty incented to get you to buy!)
  • Labor, birth, legalities, postpartum recovery, and choosing daycare
  • The first few weeks home, including dealing with visitors
  • Feeding considerations
  • Sleep patterns
  • Baby care, emergencies, vaccinations, and milestones
  • Instilling good behavior, communicating, discipline (This is one of the chapters I think is most helpful. I like the idea of redirecting with"yes" behavior instead of saying "no" all the time. "You want to throw the ball? Let's go outside; we don't throw the ball inside the house." I think the RIE method is worth looking into as well.)
  • Breaking old or bad habits and potty training
  • Recommended toys and games, playdates, and picking a preschool
I'd definitely refer to this book again once my baby is a toddler. And bless my library card; after reading this, I have a list of other books I want to check out. Matt thinks that by the time I actually HAVE the baby, I should qualify for a degree in early childhood care and education.

Saturday, July 4, 2009

Baby Videos

So far, Matt and I have watched two parenting videos. The first one was called Understanding Birth; we both really enjoyed that one, and got a lot out of it. While I had an idea what to expect, Matt didn't, and it not only brought the idea to life for both of us, but it gave us some things to discuss about how we wanted our birth to go. As I'm getting closer to my due date, I may even borrow this one from the library again to practice the labor techniques.

The second one was called Complete Baby Care. Matt found some of the content helpful, mainly how to lift and hold the baby, care for the cord, and give a bath. Otherwise, the video seemed a little outdated and wasn't as informative. It's getting dumped right back off at the library in mere moments.

BabyCenter.com has also been a great resource for videos. They tend to be short, well-edited, and pretty darn fascinating!

Friday, July 3, 2009

Picking a Pediatrician

I haven't chosen ours yet, but here are some of the things I'll consider or want to ask when choosing:
  • Is the doctor conveniently located?
  • Are office hours convenient, including weekends and evenings?
  • Does the doctor have partners, and is someone always on call?
  • How quickly will a doctor call you back?
  • Do they accept my insurance?
  • What are the doctor's hospital affiliations?
  • Will the doctor come to see the baby after she is born?
  • What are the doctor's child-rearing philosophies?

Rattled!

Just finished reading a memoir by the author of the Storked! blog on Glamour.com. Not that I had heard of the blog before picking up the book, so for anyone else is isn't familiar with it, Christine Coppa was a 26-year-old Manhattanite with a dream job working on a start-up publication, and a sort of Sex and the City existence with her network of glamourous girlfriends, all-night party sessions, cocktail brunches, and model-like boyfriend. Until they had unprotected sex, she got pregnant, and he skipped town.

Christine writes about her pregnancy, how she pulled her life back together, the birth of her son, her desire to get her son's father into his life (he declines), and the first few life-changing months of motherhood.

One of her friends has a quote on the back cover, reading, "Christine Coppa is a potty-mouthed, modern-day Holly Golightly." Maybe she gets that from their personal relationship, but I don't see that in the book. She's not terribly potty-mouthed, the book was engaging and well-written, and I don't see her as fey or tragic. (Although she's gone through some rough experiences, including major back surgery and once dated someone who became paralyzed in a motocross accident.)

If I weren't having a baby of my own in nine weeks or so, I'd probably be jealous that she's able to support herself on her writing, that she works in New York City, that she has designer clothes and a large group of fashionable girlfriends. But then I see Matt looking into the waiting crib, hear him talk to my belly, or feel his hands seeking out the little movements going on inside of me, and I think I wouldn't trade this life for all the Gucci diaper bags in the world.

Tuesday, June 30, 2009

Burnin' Love

Here's one thing that isn't fun about pregnancy: heartburn. Since I had to go into the office and worked a little late, Matt made a great dinner of spice-rubbed salmon, homemade sweet potato fries (also spiced) and edamame. Two bites in, Matt said I should take something for indigestion. I don't know WHY I didn't listen. Three hours later, I can't sleep, and I'm writhing in pain. God bless Zantac... I hope it kicks in soon. At least the baby has the good graces not to kick the bejesus out of me right now.

I'd Trade My Husband for a Housekeeper

First of all, I want to point out that this book is subtitled "loving your marriage after the baby carriage" and is about getting to the point where you WOULDN'T want to trade your husband for the afore mentioned housekeeper. I think Matt freaked out a little when he saw the title of the book.

Although I liked that the book is based on interviews of married moms and dads, I didn't find the book terribly insightful. It didn't have much content, and what content there was VERY liberally sprinkled with interviewee quotes, "dirty little secrets" (some eyebrow-raising, others just sad), and quizzes.

The main messages can be boiled down to the subtitles of each chapter: Expectations versus Reality, Make the Choice to Be Happy, Communication Is Key, Prioritizing Your Relationship, and Make Sex a True Investment in Your Marriage.

Nonetheless, if you have or are having kids, I think it's worthwhile to make the effort to read books like this one even if it's just a reminder of what you already know: that you can't do it all, that you need to communicate with your significant other, that you need to make time to be a partner (trust me, your child will benefit from the good example!), and that sex begets sex (a lot of ladies aren't "in the mood" until they're already engaging in some sort of sexual behavior, so jump in... you'll probably enjoy it!).